SIGNS OF A NARCISSIST

SIGNS OF NARCISSISM

It is extremely important that people learn what to look for when being in contact with a narcissist or a sociopath. The more you are educated on what the behavioral signs are in a person with this disorder, the better off you are in knowing how to keep yourself safe and away from these abusive people. Since these people run on being manipulative, it tends to be a gray area of behavioral patterns that tend to fly under the radar when coming into contact with a narcissist/sociopath. See below to learn about what to look out for when being in contact with a person, and how to notice their behavioral patterns, and how they 'hook' people.

WHEN FIRST MEETING THE NARCISSIST

In the beginning stages of meeting a narcissist/sociopath, they will 'love bomb' you. They will do everything they need to, and behave in ways to mirror you, and make you think that they are a person to be trusted. Note that if the connection feels extremely intense, and you are thinking and feeling that it is 'too good to be true', it probably is. This feeling of intensity is actually your body going into 'hypervigelance' mode, and your body is sending you a direct message to your brain that it you are in danger, and it's trying to protect you from the future danger of being in this persons presence.

SIGNS OF A NARCISSIST- the love bombing stage

THEY WILL IMPOSE ON YOUR LIFE
They will be all over you, around you constantly, but you won’t meet any of their friends, family. They will be VERY much into your life, daily routine activities, job, etc. But they will not offer that you get involved with their lives. You will not meet their friends (they probably don’t have any), family, you won’t be hearing much about their personal information at all. They will however talk a LOT about their accomplishments, things of that nature.

LOTS OF TALK BUT NO ACTION TO BACK IT UP
It’s all TALK TALK TALK- no show, no action.You will feel like you are in a state of euphoria almost. It will be like your on absolute cloud nine. It will be like that feeling you got when you were a teenager when you had a massive crush on someone, and they finally reciprocated it.

THEY WILL BE OVERLY CHARMING
Look at their demeanor. If you pay attention close enough, it’s too polished. There will be a lack of genuine demeanor, like an act. When someone seems way too charming, there is something to that. Everyone is of course on their best behavior in the beginning, but then there’s laying it on too thick.

YOU WILL MISTAKE IT FOR A DEEP CONNECTION
Check to see if you felt almost like you were in a hypnotic, trance, dazed state. Like you were unconsciously agreeing with things they were putting out there without even realizing it. They are master manipulators. They craft things they say to put you in a position to agree, and subject yourself to them. They will always be in control of the conversation.

Narcissist behavior- how to spot a narcissist

NOTICE THE LACK OF GENUINE INTEREST
Notice the lack of genuine interest from the person. If they seem to ask a LOT of questions about your personal life, and things of this nature, they are basically just taking your inventory for later to use at a convenient time for them.

THEY ARE BUSY TAKING YOUR INVENTORY
While you are answering their questions, or talking about yourself, your life, etc. notice how there is almost like a blank stare- lack of actual engagement from them. Narcissists don’t actually listen, because they aren’t genuinely interested in getting to know you. They are interested in gathering information.

THEY ARE WAITING FOR THEIR TURN TO TALK ALWAYS
Notice how the conversation will always somehow always turn straight back to them, and something about them. After they ask you a question, and you are answering, have answered, they will go straight into an instance that happened to them, or talk about themselves as opposed to asking (genuine) follow up questions to learn more about what you told them. Example- how you felt when it happened, etc. The narcissist doesn't actually listen to what you're saying. Instead, they wait for their turn to talk. Notice that this person will be non responsive to your statements, and what you're saying, and that there really isn't an actual genuine flow of conversation.

THEY HAVE MIRRORING BEHAVIOR
They are WAY to easily into you. They pull an ‘identity mirroring’ ploy on you. It seems to be super flattering, but if you look close enough, it’s extremely shallow, and there really isn’t any basis to their saying that they have matching qualities, etc. Note how they do not bring up these things first. It will always be you saying something your into, all about, or strongly believe in, and it’s always them responding (intensely) that its ‘so amazing’ because they say you have that in common.

THEY MAKE THEMSELVES EXTREMELY ACCESSIBLE
They seem VERY available in the beginning. For some reason, they are ALWAYS available for you when you want them to be, they are constantly calling, texting, wanting to be around you. They do this to create a barrage of making you feel ‘wanted’. This is when they begin to real you in, only to discard and treat you like complete shit once they think that they have you hooked.

WATCH OUT FOR THE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVENESS
Watch out for the passive aggressive comments and behaviors. In the beginning, it’s hard to notice this because there is so much charm diluting what is actually happening. But if you step back and think about the situation, where there some ‘odd’ remarks that just didn’t seem right? Were there a bunch of gray area things they said that didn’t quite add up?