There are several things to consider when you've finally come to the conclusion that your welfare is more important than trying to save a toxic relationship with a narcissist/sociopath. Please see below for important things to consider and plan for once you have made the decision to get away and keep yourself safe and happy. When a narcissist/sociopath is exposed, there are many behavioral patterns that are bound to happen. Know how to protect yourself and make a proper exit plan.
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING- no matter how big or small keep track of them. the more you document their behavior and actions, the more you have to build a case against them and protect yourself.
GO ABSOLUTE NO CONTACT- even the smallest amount of attention? They will prey upon you with what you’ve given them, or have not realized you've given them, which is called, 'narcissistic supply'. They will use anything against you.
CALL THE AUTHORITIES- Although it’s tough to try to get protection orders, etc. against the Narc, because they are masters at making sure they stay below the radar, the more that you have documented, the more you can bring to the authorities once they have screwed up in their attempts, so you will be able to nail them to the wall once they do.
STAY PRIVATE AS POSSIBLE- Be sure to stay very aware of who they are surrounded with. It could be a person that is not even that close to you or them, but remember that there are flying monkeys everywhere.
Remember that self care is extremely important. The emotional, and physical toll of being involved with a narcissist/sociopath has on you can be extremely severe. It's important to seek out a proper support system and to stay as strong as you can. One of the most common misconceptions of this form of abuse is that the general public does not understand the severity and danger of narcissistic abuse. Keep this in mind when you are looking to gain support and help. Stick with the facts about what has happened, and try to keep emotion out of it.
START A SMEAR CAMPAIGN AGAINST YOU:
They will do everything in their power to put you down, demean you, destroy your reputation to other people. Especially the persons that you have in common with them. They will utilize any piece of private information that they have about you and twist the truth into something that will make you look as though your horrible. They are masters at masking the smear campaign and shit talking about you in ‘concern’ for you. They do this to feed on other people’s compassion, and that’s how they rope others into their psycho plans to try to destroy your reputation.
COMPLETELY GHOST AND DISAPPEAR:
If they realize that you there is no way to control you to the point that they realize that they will gain nothing from being involved with you, they will completely disappear and move on to find a new source of narcissistic supply. In this case, you are definitely lucky. This is the most ideal situation when dealing with a Narcissist.
VICTIMIZE THEMSELVES TO OTHER PEOPLE:
They will play the ‘poor me’ game. They will tell anyone and everyone they know who will listen how they have ‘been wronged’ by you. They will make reality seem like fiction, by turning their own self into someone that has been abused. Most of the time, they will mirror what they did to you, and act like it happened to them. Because they are well aware of the crap that they have put you through, they already have the necessary information to talk about how it happened to them.
TRY TO FORCE THEMSELVES INTO YOUR LIFE:
They will not take NO for an answer. They will try to do what they can to hold control over you, because they do not accept that you will not allow them to control you, continue to exploit and abuse you. Because they are diluted in the mind, they will stop at nothing to insert themselves where they don’t belong. Whether showing up at your job, trying to steal the person your dating, showing up at your home unannounced, sharing your personal, financial information with others, they will stop at nothing to be in your life no matter how much you have pushed them out.