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A MOTHER’S LOVE CANNOT BE COVERED UP, HIDDEN, OR ERASED

10/31/2019

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Mother Victim of #adoption #fraud #scheme in #Michigan speaks up about #tara #lee #case
🧐🔎:: May we never forget. It's time to change the narrative all.... #Adoption #predator, Tara Lee of #Michigan, who is responsible for my Son Auggie and I's tragedy has been in the custody of the US Marshall since March 11th, 2019. She has been indicted with 23 felony charges for her fraudulent adoption crimes. Justice WILL be served, however my Son and I have been harmed in a way that can never be reversed. I have been absolutely traumatized by the damage all involved with working to profit & gain off of harming myself and my Son without my knowledge has caused. This will effect my Son and I for our lifetimes. 

USING ABUSE OF POWER, ABUSING THE LAW FOR ADOPTION 

Suzan 8 months pregnant with her Son.  Just 2 days later, she was preyed on by #adoption predator #tara #lee out of #Michigan
It is NEVER ok to separate families for profit, or because someone is infertile and wants a baby. It is NEVER okay to violate and abuse the law to perform predatory coercive adoption practices. In order for someone to 'get a baby', a real family is being destroyed in order for this to happen. Society needs to become more aware of what's happening to vulnerable pregnant Women who are in their most vulnerable states, being misinformed about the laws, and what will happen in their child's future.  Although with these predatory practices, the way the mother is purposely misinformed by the laws, and her unborn child has a price placed over their head without her knowledge, and people pay money to receive her child and they become separated, once the coercive predatory practices work, and they get the vulnerable woman's signature on paper without explanation to her, her baby is taken, and she is cut off.....  it's treated just like a transaction, however, these are human lives being harmed, and real human beings being traumatized.  Real families are being completely destroyed.  There is absolutely NO excuse for this.   Being infertile does not give anyone a ‘pass’ to destroy a family and rightful heritage to ‘get a baby’. Humans are not objects. This sort of practice blatantly goes against the child’s welfare and future. This is blatantly abusive and unhealthy. Adoption was created for children who ACTUALLY needed a home, not to provide babies to people who think their entitled to one.  If you know of someone who is infertile who wants to adopt a child, encourage them to GO GET EXTENSIVE THERAPY, not adopt a child. THIS is what the public should be focusing on. There are several studies of how the inadequacy issues of infertility causes mental illness. This is what needs to be focused on.

MEDIA ABUSE PROPAGANDA & GLORIFICATION OF ADOPTION

Mother Suzan Pleva and her son, victimized by #adoption #fraud


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#predatory #coercive #adoption #practices, and being surrounded and isolated by person's working to profit off of myself and my Son, my continually speaking the #truth about what's happened to me, I have dealt with constant harassment, victim shaming, stalking, blatant slander, character assassination, misrepresentation and exploitation in the media, being treated as the villain when I am indeed a victim who fights for justice, retaliation because I've continued to speak the truth and seek justice for my Son and I.  I have been blatantly misrepresented in the media, spoken about in the complete opposite way of who I am as a person, and what my efforts and work to gain justice have been. This is abusive, EXTREMELY oppressive, and wrong. I will NOT be silenced. I WILL continue on. For my Son, I will always continue on. For my Mother Jacqueline, I will always continue on. This abuse being masked in propaganda of the abuse being 'a good thing' MUST stop.  Coveting a Woman’s unborn child while still in her womb while she is pregnant is absolutely abusive. LYING to a vulnerable pregnant woman seeking aid while covering her child, misleading and misinforming her about her rights, and the laws is ABSOLUTELY predatory.  Trying to 'erase' a person who seeks justice for the harm and damage caused to them is not okay.  Trying to make a victim who has found the courage to step forward and speak the truth will not re-write history.  


I urge the public to become aware of the ACTUAL facts, laws, and realities of adoption. I urge the public to not just blindly think that it's a 'beautiful thing'.  Harming, unnecessarily separating, and damaging families, falsifying birth certificates, a person's identity is NOT a beautiful thing, it's a blatant human civil rights violation. Especially when the people being affected by it, being defrauded by it are LIED to about these facts.  I urge the public to recognize that real families are being separated via abuse, unnecessary fraudulent #adoption, left traumatized, suppressed, and marginalized by society, when they should be honored for the nightmare and damage that they have been caused by sheer predatory coercive adoption practices. I urge the public to realize that this is NOT beautiful. This is selfish, this is commodifying human beings, and blatantly violating their fundamental human civil rights in the worst way possible. This IS abuse. This is not something to be celebrated. This is a predatory practice that should be INVESTIGATED.  

PREDATORY COERCIVE ADOPTION PRACTICE IS FRAUD 

Let's pay attention to the #predatory #adoption #practices happening to vulnerable pregnant Mothers and their unborn child. It's NEVER okay, and ALWAYS abusive to #coerce, surround and pressure a Mother into #adoption while coveting her unborn child.  It is ALWAYS abusive and wrong to slander, harass, verbally & emotionally abuse and gaslight a Mother when she contacts authorities for aid, and finds the courage to speak up and fight for justice for her child, her child’s welfare and future.  Its is abusive to use a Mothers love for her child against her to try to silence her. If a child already has their family, a loving stable home and environment with everything they need, STAY AWAY from that Woman and her unborn child. The woman should ONLY and ALWAYS be supported, encouraged, and surrounded by healthy people working as a team WITH her, not against her, lying to her & manipulating her in her most vulnerable time to get her child from her while cash is exchanged for her child without her knowledge or consent.  I said it before and I’ll say it again, this is BLATANTLY predatory, abusive, and life threatening to purposely damage generations of legacy, family bonds, objectifying humans, and manipulating a vulnerable pregnant Woman whilst covering her unborn child under false pretences. Using a Woman’s vulnerable state against her, to make a profit off of her pain, profit off of her child, and gain off of the abuse is WRONG no matter what the excuse.  To reiterate, there is absolutely NO excuse for this predatory behavior. 

IT'S IMPORTANT  TO KNOW THE FACTS, LAWS, AND TRUTH

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As a person who was trapped and isolated in the abuse cycle of unecessary adoption for 3 decades, I've lived every aspect of the loss of my family.  I've lived every aspect of having my human civil rights being blatantly violated.  I've lived every aspect of the lies, gaslighting, and abuse at every turn.  I now realize that I was groomed to think that being treated this way was 'normal'.   I now know better.  I now realize I was surrounded by abusive unhealthy people.  I now stand tall and strong and fight for justice, I stand for my rightful family, not those who call themselves my 'family' through abuse of power and the law, but my real, natural rightful family.  I stand for my Mother and my Son.  I will no longer allow people who had no right, no business forcing themselves into, and violating/exploiting my Families right of privacy.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH- THE ABUSE STOPS WITH ME

Get the word out about what's really happening here! If you know of a pregnant woman considering #adoption for her child, look closer into the matter, be sure to secure proper aid and support for the Woman and her unborn child.  Do not just blindly believe that a child needed a home, or that something is wrong with the child’s real rightful parents because you were verbally told so. The child’s life, welfare, and future depends on people actually looking into the facts and what’s really going on.  Find out the TRUTH and the FACTS first. A Mother's love and bond with her child cannot be covered up, hidden or erased, it only strengthens over time. The child WILL learn the truth no matter the lies they are told. The truth ALWAYS prevails.

As an #Adoptee who’s dealt with massive abuse and isolation, control at the hands of the people who adopted me, having that abuse used against me, I know that this cycle must end.  Being stalked and aggressively harassed by the adopters who abused me, and the people who fraudulently adopted my Son for staying ENOUGH is absolutely NOT okay. It is absolutely against the law, and I will exercise my freedom of rights as a citizen to restore proper order for my Family. I know that I will ALWAYS advocate for #Adopte #Rights.  As a person who has been objectified in this way, and as a person who’s had my fundamental human civil rights violated REPEATEDLY, I stand for all that is honest, rightful, and restorative in Family Preservation. 
Unhealthy abusive people have harmed my family long-enough.  It’s time to restore natural order, protect my Family, and END the abuse. 
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NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AWARENESS DAY

6/3/2019

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💜🌀WORLD NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AWARENESS DAY

What is Narcissistic Abuse, Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
June 1st 2019 was World Wide Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day!  If a loved one, or someone you care about finds the courage to open up t you about the abuse they have endured, whether you understand it or not... BELIEVE THEM, and HELP them. One of the main tools in an abusers tool-kit is 'Victim Isolation'. Abusers work aggressively to isolate their victims from any support system they have, that would empower them to seek help. The abuser does this by working to discredit their victims reputation, character, their livelihoods, careers.  The abuser often masks this abuse, bullying and harassment onto the victim by framing their abuse as 'concern' when recruiting other unsuspecting people to work against the victim and place the victim in further danger. The unsuspecting persons are usually not aware that they are placing further harm onto the victim, and think that they are 'helping' the victim, when indeed, if they are in direct communication with the abuser, they are doing the exact opposite.  The abuse does this in order to make others not believe the victim, and to falsify the victims character as 'non credible'.  This makes it terrifying for the victim to continue to reach out to try to seek aid for their own safety and welfare from law enforcement, or to seek and gain protection orders against the abuser that is harassing them.

WHAT IS STALKING AND HARASSMENT? 

It's important to know that any individual who tells another to stay away from them, and to cease contacting them, or anyone they are associated with, and the person told to stop continues to do so, this is a violation of another persons privacy, this is exploitation, and a direct violation of a persons fundamental human civil rights.  No one deserves to be stalked or harassed, and no one should allow another person to force themselves into someone elses life when they have been told to cease their abusive behavior.   It does not matter who the person is, abuse is abuse, stalking is stalking, harassment is harassment.  It is against the law, and it is criminal behavior. 

KNOWING THE LAW & UNDERSTANDING YOUR RIGHTS  

Do not minimize the danger of being stalked. Stalkers don’t just stop this harassing behavior. Victims should seek assistance from advocates, law enforcement and the courts to intervene to stop the stalking.  Stalking is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that places a reasonable person in fear for her or his safety. It is against the law in every state. Stalking across state lines or in federal territories is illegal under federal law. Some stalking is connected with a relationship, beginning either during the relationship, or after it has ended. In these cases, the stalker is likely seeking to maintain or regain control over the victim.  ​In this definition, “willful course of conduct” refers to a pattern made up of a series of two or more separate noncontinuous acts which share the same purpose. The term “harassed” is defined as repeated or continuing unconsented contact directed toward a victim resulting in emotional distress
The way you can truly support and help an overcoming victim of #narcissistic #abuse, is through action- LISTEN to what they are telling you. Narcissistic abuse is an extremely real, and very dangerous form of terrorization onto the enduring victims. The most dangerous and terrifying time for a victim, is when they finally make the decision to get away from the abuse. This is the most crucial time to aid and support the victim when they need it most.  This is when the victim gains the courage to tell the truth about what the abuser has done to them.  In most cases, when the abuser is exposed for what they've done to the victim, they become even more aggressive, and pursue the victim in a further aggressive manner.  
Trying to gain safety, and aid to preserve your own personal welfare as an overcoming victim of abuse can be hard.  This article explains the complexities behind this, and gives great insight about the behaviors of abusive people, and how you can work to get away from them, expose the truth, and gain safety.  CLICK HERE >>>>

THE DANGERS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN ADOPTION 

It's important to understand the dangers of #Narcissistic #abuse in #adoption. It is an extremely unhealthy, and scary environment for a helpless, voiceless child who has been taken away from their real Family & Biology to be placed into a #narcissistically #abusive home.  Narcissistic abuse is extremely isolating onto a child who cannot speak for themselves, or understand or know how to get help or safety for themselves. Their reality is formed and created by the narcissistic abuser who is isolating and abusing them, by gaslighting the victim who has no other reference point to think that the abuse is 'normal', or dismissing the abuse they are placing onto the victim.  Remember that abusers come in all shapes in sizes.  This is usually a common misconception that the public tends to over-look, which leads to the abuser the victim is enduring being dismissed due to the lack of awareness and paying closer attention to what is really happening. 

I highly encourage anyone who isn't aware of what narcissistic personality disorder is, to research, look this up. Narcissism is a term that has been diluted as of current day, where it is often misconceived as a person who is driven by praise and 'vanity'. This is quite the common misconception that tends to leave the victims of actual narcissistic abuse further isolated, and without help, because the unaware norm tends to see the victim as lying, or over-reacting. Remember to BELIEVE and LISTEN to what a victim who gains the courage to speak up is telling you.  Due to people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder being extremely unhealthy, they make a point to manipulate, control and harm their victims in a way that is cunning, calculated, and misunderstood and masked to unsuspecting people.  The abuser will go to great lengths to find out information about the victim.  This is why it is extremely important for the overcoming victim to secure their privacy, and document EVERYTHING.  The more an overcoming victim documents things about the abusers behavior, the easier it will be to gain help from law enforcement to get the abuse and stalking/harassment to stop.  It's important to realize, that if another person works in such malicious intent to villainize and paint another in a bad light, there is something wrong and unhealthy about the person who is using these manipulative tactics.  Narcissistic abusers manipulate the actual truth to form what suits them best at the time.  Pay attention to the factual instances that happened, pay attention to the 100%, not what the falsified version of it is.  Look at actions, or lack of actions, and what the outcomes have been.  

The way you can truly support and help an overcoming victim of #narcissistic #abuse, is through action- LISTEN to what they are telling you. Narcissistic abuse is an extremely real, and very dangerous form of terrorization onto the enduring victims. The most dangerous and terrifying time for a victim, is when they finally make the decision to get away from the abuse. This is the most crucial time to aid and support the victim when they need it most.

IF THEY ENABLE THE ABUSE, THEY ARE NOT YOUR PEOPLE 

Suzan Pleva is proud of who she is
One of the toughest realities to come to terms with for an overcoming victim of abuse, is- when family and friends, those the victim thought were their support system, never were.  More often than not, the people in the narcissistic abuse systematic make up, will side with, and comply to the narcissistic abusers behavior to 'save face'.  It's quite the shameful way to behave, and it's very disappointing, especially when it is people that you've known for extended periods of time, even your whole life- who when you finally speak out and tell the truth about what happened to you, dismiss what has happened to you.  It is also very important to know, that unhealthy people seek out vulnerable people in need.  Unfortunately, abusive people see overcoming victims who have experienced abuse and invalidation as easy targets.  If you seek out aid, and are further exploited and violated... DO NOT GIVE UP.  There ARE healthy, proper people out there that want to know the truth and end abuse in the right ways.  

The abuse enabling cycle I spoke of, happens quite often in family units.  There is a lot of shame that is placed over the abuse that has been exposed.  Unfortunately, not everyone is as strong as the overcoming abuse victim who found the courage to speak up and tell the truth.  Many family members, friends, and the like will side with the abuser to preserve the 'reputation' of the family reputation instead of doing the right thing, standing up and protecting the victim of the abuse.  Instead, they make the decision to enable and stay within the abusive cycle.  This is called denial.  I say to you now all over-coming victims of abuse.... this is not your shame to carry.  You are no longer in denial, no longer support shame, abuse, lies, or fallacies.  You support the honest truth, and the whole truth. 

Shame on anyone who behaves in this unhealthy manner.  When someone acuses a victim of lying, and places further manipulation onto the victim- this is what we call 'victim shaming'.  When a person does this, the microscope needs to be pointed directly at that unheatlhy person, NOT the victim.  If this happens to a victim, the victim needs to ensure that they stay away from this kind of person, because they will enable further abusive behavior, and distress onto the overcoming victim, and deter the overcoming victim from moving forward into the light and maintaining the truth. 

Just know, that when these abuser enablers show themselves to you, this is a blessing in disguise when this happens.  What this shows you is, THESE ARE NOT YOUR PEOPLE.  The harsh realization is, they were never your people.  What that does is, helps you get rid of anyone with this kind of unhealthy behavior, and points you in the closer direction to healthy, loving, honest and genuine people who will support and respect you and your boundaries.  This is an amazing thing!  As I've mentioned before, pay attention to those saying they will support you, but never follow through with actually doing so.  A person who genuinely supports you, would place immediate action in preserving your welfare if they learn that you have been harmed.  

SPEAK UP, SPEAK THE TRUTH, YOU ARE VALIDATED!

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​🧐:: It's time that we, as society become more aware of how harmful this is to the people that suffer in isolation every day from this form of abuse, harassment, stalking, and psychological warfare. It places victims in fear, danger, destroys careers, relationships, and objectifies people who are targets of this form of abuse. I know, I am an overcoming victim of narcissistic abuse, who after two years of stalking and harassment at the hands of my abusers after going public, and telling the TRUTH about what happened to me, losing everyone in my life who I thought were supposed to be my support system, is still here. Still standing tall. I was finally able to gain help to stop the stalking legally. However again, it took me 2 YEARS to escape the entrapment and isolation from the abusers who had me isolated for 30 + years. I used to be afraid of using the word #Abuse. Then I educated myself on what was happening to me, and sought out information from professionals to learn, that what I had endured was indeed ABUSE. I stand proud of myself, and I continue to have my voice heard!

BRINGING AWARENESS TO NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

I will continue my work as an advocate for all who suffered through, and are still enduring narcissistic abuse & isolation. I work to inform the public about things like knowing that abusers come in all forms and walks of life. No matter who the abusive unhealthy person, male, female, #narcissistic #abuse is extremely terrifying and violation and exploitative to the victim who is left in isolation. Let's work together to empower overcoming victims- as we continue to speak more and more every day. Our voices are getting stronger, and hearts and lives are being saved because of it!

I will continue my work as an advocate for all who suffered through, and are still enduring narcissistic abuse & isolation. I work to inform the public about things like knowing that abusers come in all forms and walks of life. No matter who the abusive unhealthy person, male, female, #narcissistic #abuse is extremely terrifying and violation and exploitative to the victim who is left in isolation. Let's work together to empower overcoming victims- as we continue to speak more and more every day. Our voices are getting stronger, and hearts and lives are being saved because of it!
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ADOPTION PREDATOR FACING PRISON TIME

3/2/2019

 

TARA LEE FACES 20 YEARS IN PRISON FOR #ADOPTION #FRAUD

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A Woman named Tara Lee, of New Haven, #Michigan was posing and advertising herself to be a 'licensed pregnancy therapist & counselor' advertising that she was running a 'licensed pregnancy resource and education center'.  This is not the truth.  Lee is not licensed at all.  Tara Lee of #Michigan is an #adoption #predator.  She was literally conning people, both prospective adopters, as well as defrauding and manipulating vulnerable pregnant Women into placing their unborn child for adoption.  It is EXTREMELY dangerous for an #adoption #predator who is posing to be a therapist and counselor to be preying on, lying to, and pretending to be working in the vulnerable pregnant Mothers best interest, all to get the Mother's child and place the child for adoption to make a profit off of the child without the child's Mother having any knowledge of the fact that her child was sold for cash.  This is blatant #Adoption #Abuse and #Coercion. 

I know this because Myself and My Son are victims of Tara Lee.  There is a lot of media coverage about the people who paid Tara Lee money to adopt a child, and were frauded out of money by Lee.  What there isn't media coverage on, is the victims who have faced massive loss and devastation due to Tara Lee's crimes, predatory practices, and fraudulence.  I myself, and my Son are among these victims.  This trauma, this devastation is more than just a temporary wound of a crime that's been done to my Son and I.  
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TARA LEE VIOLATES HER BOND CONDITIONS MANDATED BY FBI

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#adoption #predator #TaraLee out of Macomb County, Michigan has violated her bond conditions. When an abusive #adoption #predator shows no remorse for the lives they have damaged, the harm they have caused, the families they have torn apart, all while profiting off of their pain, and defrauding them in the process, this is a person who NEEDS to be off the streets and in prison to ensure they can't hurt/harm any further vulnerable people.

Just like the Mother of loss interviewed in this video, I too, and my one and only Son (Auggie) are victims of #adoption #predator Tara Lee, who was posing/advertising herself as a 'licensed pregnancy therapist/counselor'.

Lee is not licensed at all, and was literally flipping babies for cash and profiting off of peoples agony and devastation. Lee was targeting, conning, aggressively #coercing, and grooming vulnerable pregnant Women in need of help by manipulating them into placing their children for adoption.  This is adoption abuse at it's finest everyone.  When a vulnerable woman in need for aid for herself and her unborn child are seeking professional aid, and a safe place to seek resources, all to be prayed on, and faced with an adoption predator looking for one thing, and one thing only- to make money off of the sale of the Woman's child without the woman having any knowledge of the devastation she faces in the future, and the fact that people are purposely misleading the Woman about the laws, repercussions of the damage she will be caused.... I say again, this is ADOPTION ABUSE.  

INFORMATION ON ADOPTION COERCION AND #ADOPTION ABUSE

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Adoption Coercion, and taking away a Mother's right to make a proper informed decision is a VERY real, VERY predatory, and VERY abusive thing that happens more often than you realize.  It's important that the societal 'norm' becomes aware of what these abusive predatory adoption practices are, and begins to realize, and recognize when this form of abuse is being placed onto a vulnerable pregnant Woman.  If you see a woman who is surrounded in persons who have a vested interest, that being for the Woman to place her child for adoption- ask the pregnant Woman if she needs help, and HELP HER.  More often than not, vulnerable pregnant women in crisis without support systems are being targeted and used, abused, manipulated into thinking that the people that she is surrounded with are helping her, when in fact, the people she is surrounded with only have a vested interest in getting her child from her.  Once this happens, there is a lifetime of damage caused to the Woman and her child due to unnecessary separation, and unnecessary adoption, which equals, #predatory #adoption #abuse.  Please see the chart below for a solid understanding on perspective of how violating it is for a pregnant woman, in her most vulnerable state to be surrounded with those who have a vested interest in getting her child from her, with her being purposely mislead, lied to about what will actually happen for her and her child's future.  It is important to note, it's not even legal for a puppy to be adopted until it is 8 weeks old, so let's ask ourselves this question, why is it okay to surround a Mother and her child before the child is even born, when the Woman is extremely vulnerable and in NO condition to be making any decisions for her child in the manner of adoption under the guise and pressure of those trying to get her child from her and profit off of her child and herself without her knowledge of it?
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CLICK HERE TO READ AN ARTICLE WITH INFORMATION ON ADOPTION COERCION PRACTICES

#adoption #predator #TaraLee out of Macomb County, Michigan has violated her bond conditions. When an abusive adoption predator shows no remorse for the lives they have damaged, the harm they have caused, the families they have torn apart, all while profiting off of their pain, and defrauding them in the process, this is a person who NEEDS to be off the streets and in prison to ensure they can't hurt/harm any further vulnerable people. Just like the Mother of loss interviewed in this video, I too, and my one and only Son (Auggie) are victims of #adoption #predator #TaraLee, who was posing/advertising herself as a 'licensed pregnancy therapist/counselor'.  Lee is not licensed at all, and was literally flipping babies for cash and profiting. Lee was targeting, conning, aggressively #coercing, and grooming vulnerable pregnant Women in need of help by manipulating them into placing their children for adoption.

MY WORK TO ADVOCATE & STOP PREDATORY ADOPTION ABUSE

I want to make it VERY CLEAR, that my continued work with the state, my formal complaint, evidence, and witness testimony were 110% key factors for the reason that the State of Michigan was able to place a permanent injunction on Lee in the courtroom on January 14th 2019.

Certain media has refused to interview me regarding the work I have continually done for the past year and a half, however showed a quick flash of my face in the courtroom on January 14th 2019 when the State of Michigan placed the formal injunction on Lee. As the media stated about me, "a birth mother from Detroit set up an adoption with a couple from Wisconsin". I will make it VERY clear, that this is NOT the facts, truth or reality of what's really happening here, and how I have been blatantly violated in every way possible.  I am a VICTIM and justice seeker, who has continually worked hard over the past almost 2 years providing concrete evidence to ensure that #Adoption #Predator Tara Lee is punished for the lives she has damaged/harmed due to #unnecessaryadoptions, and Lee's preying on vulnerable pregnant Women in crisis who were seeking proper aid.
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Because of this #adoption #predator Tara Lee, Women and their children were separated due to unnecessary adoption, and massive damage, devastation, and trauma has been caused.  I will continue to tell the truth.  I will continue to speak out on behalf of all survivors and victims of blatant adoption abuse, and unnecessary adoption.  I will continue to fight for, and seek justice.  The facts do not lie.  It is extremely important that people are paying attention to the FACTS, and the TRUTH.  Not the here-say.  Facts do not lie, and a person cannot twist facts no matter how hard they try.  It's time society comes to realize how abusive predatory adoption practices are, and how often this actually happens.  It's extremely important for people to pay closer attention to what's really happening, as opposed to only seeing 'happy' pictures, and 'smiling faces'.  Remember, abusers and unhealthy people come in all shapes and sizes.  When the FBI gets involved in a case, and the State of Michigan as well, that's a 110% fact that a crime was committed.  There is no excusing out of this fact. 

A PROUD LEGACY FOR MY SON AUGUST [AUGGIE]-THE TRUTH

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I had no idea that my Son had a price over his head to be paid for, and that my Son and I's pain was to be profited off of by #adoption #predators. I had no idea that my child was a 'purchased baby'.  The betrayal, the fact that we were blatantly used for other people's agenda's, the fact that after all I worked so hard for, and suffered through to ensure my Son's future and welfare, we were violated, used, and manipulated, in the way that we were is absolutely abusive and sickening.  Anyone who argues against this fact, and endorses what this adoption predator Tara Lee has done to so many?  Well now, this is a person that needs to be further looked into.  Anyone who further places abuse, harassment, violation, and vilanizes a victim of the abuse I've suffered?  Well then again I say to you society, this is something that needs to be further looked into, because anyone with that kind of agenda, clearly isn't right within their own mind or self, as it is clearly unhealthy to further harm a victim of predatory adoption abuse.  

Please be sure to keep myself and my Son August in your hearts and minds everyone.  I am fighting HARD for justice.  One thing I am certain of, is that my Son Auggie will be proud of my courage.  He will be proud of his Mother's continual fight for justice.  I know that I am saving a lot of future lives from this happening.  I fully support real family preservation.  I 110% support facts, truth, and only the 110% truth, not the fabricated manipulated version of things, but the ACTUAL TRUTH.  I am a Woman of integrity.  I am Auggie's Mother, and he will be proud to know that his Mother has the same strong soul of a warrior that he does. 

It's time to LOCK UP adoption predator Tara Lee, and ensure that this person can no longer harm or do any further damage or place any further vulnerable people in harms way again.  🔐🔐🔐💯✔️

SUPPORT MY FIGHT FOR JUSTICE TO END PREDATORY ADOPTION ABUSE PRACTICES

I continue to bring light to the truth, seek justice for not only myself and my Son, but for all victims of unnecessary adoption, predatory adoption, and adoption abuse.  Humans are not to be purchased or objectified.  It is wrong, unjust, and a blatant human rights violation to adopt a child who already has their rightful, proper loving Mother. I commend all overcoming abuse victims who gain the courage to stand up and continue to speak the truth about what's happened to them.  
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MATERNAL NARCISSISM- Females Are Abusers Too

6/14/2018

 
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There are some really great resources out there regarding 'Maternal Narcissism'. I was adopted and raised by a malignant narcissist female. I do not call this lady my mother, as in my mind, she’s just a barren/infertile narcissist who thought she was entitled to call herself a ‘mother’ because she flew under the radar and wasn’t psychologically screened properly and got away with being allowed to adopt a child. But that’s my story, and a story for another time…… One thing that really helped me was of course firstly, educating myself as much as possible on what narcissism is, the behavioral patterns of a narcissist, and learning the different types of narcissism. Things that I started to self actualize were this:
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  • Most/the majority of narcissists run like clock-work. They are very ‘textbook’. Although all personal situations and journeys are going to have different details, one thing seems to always be prevalent, there are textbook narcissist abuser techniques that are used. Whether the narc knows this or not, they are text book, transparent, and NOT SPECIAL, they are just a narc like the rest of them.
  • Women are abusers also, doesn’t matter the title of ‘Mother’ or not. As mentioned above, a narc is a narc is a narc, no matter what shape, size or form they come in. Narcissistic abuse is no joke. I personally believe that the majority of the societal ‘norm’ fundamentally believes that Women/Mothers naturally love their children always. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. In our cases, the narc abuser just happened to come in the shape and form of the ‘Mother’.
  • There are MANY others like us who have suffered and endured. What I mean by this is, in your and my specific case…. One thing that seriously helped me big time was finally finding others that were like me, in this very specific demographic of being a ‘daughter of a narcissistic mother’. The more I came to realize this, and find my community of fellows that also suffered through what I did, it seriously lightened my grief and feelings of isolation. Not only that, but it validated and empowered me.

GOOD RESOURCES TO LOOK OUT FOR:
  1. FACEBOOK GROUPS: A huge one for me was finding Facebook support groups specifically for daughters of narcissistic mothers. If you just shoot that term into the ‘ol Facebook search bar, you should be able to find some good groups. I tell ya, hearing these other members of the groups speaking their truths and experiences, I had an ‘AHA’ moment… as at times, I was like, “WOAH, that person just described exactly what happened to me!”. Not only this, but having a proper and safe space to vent among people that just flat-out ‘get it’ without your having to even explain yourself.
  2. ONLINE ARTICLES: I assume since you’ve made it here to Quora, asking the question you did, you’ve probably already came across many articles on narcissism when googling it. One thing that I made sure to do was keep searching and searching the more you find out. The more specific your search terms become, the further information and validation you will find. For instance, in the beginning, I was just searching ‘emotional abuse’, then I would learn, then it turned into ‘ah, that persons a narcissist’, which turned into me searching terms like, ‘maternal narcissism’, and really thinking about things like, what causes maternal narcissism’, etc…..
  3. CONNECTING AND NETWORKING: Just like here, connecting with your fellow survivors via social media is HUGE. Not only just in Facebook groups, etc. Many of us, now that we live in the days of technology and social media have come out with blogs and websites. I have done quite a bit of networking, and connecting with my fellow survivors. The more I have done this via the social media networks, the more solid my support system online has become. You end up really narrowing down a core group of people that have very specific shared experiences as you. Just having the piece of mind that your community backs you is HUGE….. Especially when you have to live with the fear of being shut down when your trying to speak out and tell the truth. Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, all of it. Get as connected as you possibly can and get your troops to back you up, because we’re pretty die hard on having our fellow survivors backs.
  4. LEARNING ABOUT NARCISSIST FAMILY ROLES: I found it extremely eye opening to learn about what my role in the typical narcissistic family unit is. Learning and knowing the possible ‘characters’ in the narcissistic family are, and finding where you fit in in this is huge. For instance, I was always the scapegoat. I learned that my adoptive ‘Father is the co-dependent spouse of a narcissist’. Learning that about him was HUGE, because I used to think he was the ‘good one’. Now, learning about co-dependent spouses of narcs has made me realize that he was just as abusive as the narc for not protecting me from it. So putting a descriptor on that, and having it more clear to me seriously helped me make that gray area of feeling ‘sad for poor ‘ol dad’ turn into, “wow, what a sad person without a back bone, he CHOSE not to protect his children”.

IN CONCLUSION
I just want to tell you this now. When speaking earlier about how strong our community of being children of narcissistic mothers is, I want you to know that I’m here for you full-on 110%. There’s literally nothing that you could say or do to turn me away from supporting you as you are a full-blown member of our community.
Please know, (and it’s quite possible you’ve had to face this wrath)- there is a TON of victim shaming and blaming going on, as when you do speak up and speak out about things, there are tons of people out there who will immediately try to attack you, accuse you of lying, etc. No matter what, just remember this- YOU ARE RIGHT. YOU ARE THE EXPERT, YOU LIVED IT. And anyone who victim shames you, is not worth your time. EVER, point-blank no excuses. As these people will show themselves to you and make you realize that they are not your proper and solid support system.  Aunt, Uncle, Grandmother, Apparent Friend- if anyone is aiding the abuser and damaging your efforts to move forward without understanding what happened to you, they are not your people.  They are not your tribe and it's important to keep yourself protected and away from any person that condones or enables toxic and abusive behavior.


GREED IN ADOPTION & TRAGEDY

6/5/2018

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A Mother Loses Her Son to Greed & Baby Purchasing 

It is important to know that not all Woman who make a decision to place their unborn child for adoption are doing so with proper information, nor are the people that they may be surrounded with in the process of when they are pregnant with their child, and vulnerable, in any place to make any decision of the sort- good people, or people who have the child's best interest and future in mind.  There are people in this world who will do anything they have to to 'get a baby', regardless of how much this will damage the child and regardless of how much it will go against the child's welfare.  Children are being taken from their Mothers under false pretenses regularly, given to strangers, and this is a hidden form of abuse that has been happening through time that the societal norm is unaware of. 
Otto Ohlsson of Milwaukee, Wisconsin fraudulently, illegally adopts a child- The child's real Mother was coerced, the case is now under official investigation

My Son Already Has His Mother, His REAL Proper Mother  

Ohlsson Modeling Agency, Milwaukee Wisconsin- Brandis Ohlsson Fraudulently Adopts another Woman's Child- is now under official investigation with state of Michigan
I am a classically trained musician, classical piano instructor, have owned and successfully ran my business for 9 years regardless of the curve-balls thrown at me.  I've lived with a modest, but comfortable income.  I volunteer and contribute to my community regularly and always have.  It's ingrained in my core being to contribute to the greater cause and help my fellows in society.   From my Maternal instinct, I know whole-hardheartedly that this is ingrained in my Son August as well.  I am a philanthropist through volunteerism.  I am an educator.  I believe that children really are the future, and I put everything I can into educating young minds.  I volunteer in a kitchen and give food out to the homeless twice a week in Downtown Detroit, Michigan.  I volunteer as an advocate for sexual violence victims.  I teach an inner city music theory program to children & families who do not have the monitary resources to gain a proper musical education.  I am no drug addict, no street runner, that's for sure.......  

4 DAYS BEFORE I GAVE BIRTH TO MY SON

Brandis Ohlsson of Ohlsson Modeling Agency Wisconsin Fraudulently adopts a child, leaves child's real Mother devastated
This picture of me was taken a year ago today on June 4th 2017.  I gave birth to my Son just 5 days later. On June 9th, 2017, my beautiful Son August (Auggie) was born.  What a memory looking back. This wasn't the usual, 'Instructor Pleva's performing at her usual 'hoity toity' gigs.  It wasn't just a usual 'gig' for me.  It was a performance for a baby shower ironically.  That was a first for me, as I usually wouldn't accept a performance invitation like this.  My usual performances, 'gig's if I choose to take them on are usually gallery openings, exhibits, cocktail parties, etc.....  As you can see, I was a smaller pregnant woman, so no one at my performance was aware....  Well, until....  I spent my time that afternoon at another Woman’s celebration for her child coming into this world, ensuring everyone else aside from myself was okay as usual, thinking about how tragic it was that I wasn’t able to celebrate myself and my own child’s coming into this world the way I should be. All-the-while, I played ‘Suzie Sunshine’ as usual and slapped that smile on my face........

As usual, once I finished my performance, walked through the French Tudor doors for the host to introduce me for the applause. As she stated, “We applaud and thank Instructor Pleva for that beautiful performance”.... and everyone clapped as I made my bow.  As I turned to walk away, my pregnant belly showed. The crowd of about 90 people made a conjoined noise of shock and aw.... the host then said, AND! BABY PLEVA WOW!  The applause then commenced louder. That was the most celebration myself and my Son ever received for his getting ready to come into this world.  Today has been a rough day. This whole week is going to be, as my Son is not with me, in my arms where he belongs.  My Son was fraudulently adopted by narcissists under the false guise of a fraud
ulent adoption worker posing to be a 'licensed pregnancy therapist' - coercing and targeting me at 8 1/2 months pregnant.  All the cards were stacked against my Son and I, and I was completely oblivious, and unaware.  I assure anyone who is reading this, I am a very intellectual Woman; a fact-checker if you will.  What I could not find regardless of how thoroughly I tried?  Information on fraudulent adoptions.  And now here we are..... My Son and I are separated from each other, the abusive legacy of adoption corruption has repeated itself. 

When Adoption Is Blatantly Abusive

Adoption Abuse, Carrie Pleva, Narcissistic Abuser Adopter in Michigan- the adult child she adopted speaks out
​As mentioned, I was adopted by an infertile narcissistic abuser, and have lived my life in complete turmoil due to constantly dealing with the 'mommy dearest' female abuser that adopted me.  I didn't have a choice in the matter.  I was taken from my real Mother, and placed into the hands of a narcissistic abuser.  All always looked great to the outside world, as I played my part of 'Suzie Sunshine' as-if the abuse wasn't constantly happening in order to survive what I had to.  That was my way of life for 3 decades.  After 30+ years of dealing with the narcissistic abuser adopter and her compliant husband's constant and severe gas-lighting, psychological abuse, psychopathy; my Maternal instincts to keep my Son protected and away from these people kicked in.  Trying to get away from and escape the trappings of a narcissistic abuser is like trying to escape Scientology, the constant harassment, abuse by proxy, smear campaigns, stalking is VERY aggressive.  Try to imagine being an 8 1/2 month vulnerable pregnant Woman trying to handle all of the stalking and harassment, shaming and blaming for finally telling the truth about the abuse in your own life, while doing all you can to keep your unborn child's safety in-tact while you have absolutely NO support.  NONE.  This is what I was dealing with on a constant basis.  

My Efforts to Keep My Child Safe Were Exploited, I Was Used 

In order to keep myself and my Son safe while pregnant, I cut off the narcissist abuser that adopted me, and told her and her co-dependent husband they were no longer allowed to be around me. They wouldn’t take NO for an answer, and continued to help themselves to me like I was a piece of meat/stalk and harass me.  To the outside world, 'societal norm', all would've looked 'just fine'.  As 'Suzie Sunshine' was 'just fine' wearing that smile on her face, and looking like all-was-well'. 'Suzie Sunshine' wasn't doing fine.  I was literally terrified for my Son. I had absolutely literally NO ONE to support me or help me. I consistently and continually reached out for aid/support , and was told I was 'over reacting' and I was dismissed.  I was introduced to a woman who posed herself to be a ‘licensed pregnancy therapist’. This woman is not licensed nor a therapist, she is a glorified baby broker who had me convinced that the only way to keep my unborn Son safe and away from my adopter abusers was to place him for adoption. This woman is now under official investigation with the Attorney General of Michigan due to what happened. 

Poof 💨. Just like that- within a 2 1/2 week time frame, my Son was gone. I was love bombed, I had been surrounded, these people had my baby, and I was discarded like a piece of trash 'birthing mechanism'. The people got what they wanted... My child.  My child was treated like an object.  And these people conned me into providing them with what they wanted to use to fill their unhealthy void.  When I started asking questions about what happened, and the legitimacy of the whole thing, and expressed my terror for my Sons safety, the gaslighting and harassment began.  It’s been a year of this. 

The female that adopted my Son is now busy playing 'fairy tales and rainbows' like she now has 'her' baby and that little false story had a happy ending.  This couldn’t be farther from the truth.   My Son's life has JUST started.  And because of these people, his life started on a lie.  This lady is now apparently writing a book about ‘HER’ adoption and infertility journey. That’s right, you heard that right. As if a person couldn’t use and abuse two other human beings (My Son and I) enough, this narcissistic abuser has taken it even further, this lady now plans to profit off of further exploiting myself and my Son and our tragedy by 'writing a book about it'. ​

Adopted People ARE The Experts On Adoption

Dear general public- if you would like to know what adoption is really like, and actually want to know the truth and reality... ASK THE EXPERTS.  Ask the person who was adopted.  Do NOT ask the person that adopted a child.  No matter how 'good' a person may seem if they adopted a child, no matter how 'good' their intentions are, they will never actually know the realities of what a life of being adopted is like.  Adoption was created to ensure that children that actually needed homes had them.  My Son in no-way-shape or form is a 'saved child', nor is he a child in need of a home.  He already has a stable, proper, loving Mother.  My Son August's Mother was coerced into fraudulent adoption under constant duress, and extreme pressure. 

Now let me make this clear.  There are good adoption stories.  There are good people in this world who adopt for the right reasons.  And to those people who are actually adopting for the proper fundamental reason of providing a child with a home when the child needs it, I say thank you.  However there are people who adopt children for their own wants and gain.  Let's get this straight, THIS IS ABUSE.  It is never okay to use another person(s) in order to fulfill a downfall or fault in your own life.  This is blatantly unethical and wrong.  

More often than I'd like to realize, the societal norm looks at people who adopt in a very blanketed and blind way.  "Aw, you adopted a child?  Your so great!".  This couldn't be farther from the truth.  It's important that society gets privy on all that adoption-land really is, and starts to look closer.  It can save future lives from having to deal with a life-time of abuse.  I state again, if you are unaware of what adoption is like, what people experience... DO NOT look to a person who adopted a child.  Look to the person that was adopted.  
For reference purposes, a person that has been adopted has a term/title.  That term/title is....  

'ADOPTEE'

It's EXTREMELY important that society is actually speaking with, asking questions about experiences, having healthy curiosity and looking to the expert- the 'ADOPTEE'.  As when you are an 'Adoptee', you are programmed to keep your head down, and consistently taught (generally) that you survive in life based on performance mode, as opposed to actually being able to live your life for yourself.  The 'Adoptee' was adopted; more times than not, to serve a purpose for other people's agenda's, and this can carry on for their life-spans unless others are aware of what has actually happened to them.  

When People Get Away With Adoption Abuse

The nightmares never stop. Me breaking down in the middle of instructing my students never stops. The one thing that is always consistent that I know, is I love my Son and I miss him greatly. I will NEVER give up fighting to make things right for him, and ensuring that my Son knows the absolute 110% truth about what has happened.  Who will provide my Son August with the absolute truth?  Who is the actual and ONLY source for my Son to receive this information?  His Mother, his actual REAL Mother..... ME.  That's right-all, I'm the real deal.  I am my Son's real Mother, his absolute tried and true #1 advocate for life.  

The only way I will be shoved in a corner, or 'quieted' or 'go-away' and not be there for my Son?  Welp, let's just say, these abusive people I've been surrounded with harrassing me would have to 'off me' in order to get me away from my child.  The whole, 'Suzie had a baby', and 'Stop bringing up the past', and the 'August will be fines"'?  They can try as hard as they'd like to try to break me, wear me down, assassinate my character... doesn't matter to me- I'm not ever going away when it comes to my Child.  That is my Son.  I am and always will be right here for my child.  At the end of the day, I know the truth.  I know the ACTUAL truth.  Not the twisted 'adoption-land' version of it.  I know my child, who he is, and I know how amazing the person I brought into this world is.  I literally have one thing in mind.  My Son's future and welfare.  My Son's future and welfare is ingrained in my DNA and core-being.  That will never go away.

My Son is now in the exact abusive cycle that I was forced into from infancy with no choice. I myself was ripped away from my Mother and placed into the arms of a psychologically unhealthy barren female narcissist so that she could play ‘pretend mom’ to another woman’s child.  The proof of how damaging this narcissistic abuse in adoption is to a human beings life shows & displays prominently in the past 30+ years I just endured, and the fact that my Son is now not with me where he belongs.  My Son has this exact same thing happening.  This is not the life my Son was intended to live.  My Son August is not here on this earth to cater to a psychologically unhealthy person and 'dumb himself down' to feel and think that he is 'grateful' for being with strangers that had the insatiable want to 'get a baby'.  

If you know of any pregnant women who may be considering adoption for their child, LOOK FURTHER INTO IT. Do your part and make this society better for the future.  Ensure that the woman isn’t being surrounded and coerced by predatory people who are lying to her in order to get her child from her. ENSURE that she has someone safe and has HER AND HER CHILD'S best interest at heart genuinely and isn’t just acting and behaving that way to get her child from her. 

Another Generation Torn Apart

Suzan and her Son August
Please everyone, keep Myself and my Son August in your hearts and minds this week. A Mother’s heart is broken as her Son was taken from her under false pretenses. It’s important that the societal norm is aware of how dangerous, life damaging, and tragic narcissistic abuse is- ESPECIALLY in adoption. This abuse may not be tangible, or easy to see, however- the effects on the victims are extremely obvious and telling.  Direct cause and effect.

Take it from me, an expert- THE ADOPTEE; If someone has suffered narcissistic abuse, especially in adoption, and musters up the courage to talk about it, reaches out for aid and support.... BELIEVE THEM. HELP THEM. Do NOT further make their situation worse.  If it makes you uncomfortable to hear what they are saying?  Turn in the other direction.  Do not waste the persons time.  ​

A Proud Legacy For My Son

Suzan and her Son August at the Detroit Symphony Orchestra - Miles August Ohlsson
When I was pregnant with my Son, I used to take him to the Detroit Symphony Orchestra.  It was one of our regular things to do.  As strange as it may sound that I say I was 'taking my Son' to the orchestra, as I was pregnant with him.... My Son August was not only with me everywhere I went because I was pregnant with him, he was already destined to be here in this world.  When I say I used to 'take my Son to the orchestra', It wasn't just me sitting there in the seat taking the beautiful music in, it was my Son and I.  

A Mother's heart broken, her letter to her Son
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TRUE POWER IS COMPASSION

5/21/2018

 
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Guest Author, Ferera Swan:  After learning that she was adopted at age 10, Ferera poured unanswered questions into music, writing her first song at age 12, followed by her first cinematic score at age 14 titled 'Serenity', which was premiered by four orchestras for a turnout of over 2,ooo during her senior year of high school. Her original piece, 'Lighthouse', was featured as a soundtrack in the film documentary, Swim For The Reef, premiered at the Cannes Film Festival in France, 2016.  By inspiring others with her story through music as an artist, adoptee, and a voice for adoptees, Ferera is passionate about raising awareness in the areas of mental health, foster care, and adoption.  Please read below to read Ferera's post on narcissism in adoption. 


Narcissitic Abusers who adopt children
I love the compassion Brené Brown delivers on just about any topic. Narcissism is complex to navigate, and requires us to exercise compassion (for ourselves & others) in order to process it thoroughly. 
When we think of the word, the automatic, common response is that negativity must be associated with it, but the reality is, it’s far more than just ‘good’ or ‘bad’. You won’t get an accurate picture from reading a few articles, either.

Healthy narcissism is actually necessary for balanced, healthy mental/emotional health & self esteem. 

Unhealthy narcissism, however, can develop as a result of an array of reasons: family dynamics with low e.i. (emotional intelligence); child neglect; experiencing rejection as a child; abuse/trauma, etc. - the list goes on. 
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Because narcissism fluctuates, has many variabilities and is not ‘one-size-fits-all’, it’s helpful to understand the unique ways it can manifest in ourselves; evaluate if what we’re feeling towards someone or something is healthy or unhealthy (those who genuinely cannot tell the difference or are unable to self-reflect likely suffer from the narcissistic personality disorder) and what to look for when it manifests in others in a way that hurts us.
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One example of unhealthy narcissism would be trying to control the actions, opinions, or feelings of others (anyone from your child, spouse, dating partner, friend or coworker) according to how you feel they should or should not behave, versus reflecting on, being curious about, or having compassion for what they may be personally experiencing.

For adoptees relinquished at birth, the majority of us tend to lean towards the low end, thus, resorting to people-pleasing in order to avoid re-abandonment (a huge component of my therapy work over the last five years). You can imagine how being introduced to an environment where narcissism is prevalent can be extremely painful, traumatic, and even detrimental for an adopted child. Learning how to recognize the difference between healthy parent/child dynamics, relationship and/or friendship dynamics vs. unhealthy is vital in order to create boundaries where necessary and/or even go no-contact when situations are so toxic, it becomes necessary. 

Perhaps what is most challenging, yet most powerfully liberating is having the ability to practice compassion for those who struggle with any illness, especially unknowingly. This quote evokes just that, is a strong reminder that true power is compassion, and always wins over judgment.

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TURNING A BLIND EYE TO NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN ADOPTION- Flying Monkeys

3/28/2018

 
Licensed professional counselor speaks about narcissistic abuse in adoption
Guest author, Denise Miller speaks regarding narcissistic abuse in adoption.  There are things that need to be clarified regarding hidden abuse.  Denise helps us identify the behaviors of narcissistic, abusive people.  


Narcissists are people who use and manipulate others for personal gain, and feel little to no remorse for harm done. They operate on the belief that they are superior and are entitled to what belongs to others.  Flying monkeys are the people narcissists train up to be loyal to them and have bought into their twist on the truth (lies), specially tailored to suit their desires.  They assist the narcissist in perpetuating their selfish agenda by helping the narcissist abuse their scapegoats (those the narcissist takes advantage of), and also help mitigate their consequences. They keep the narc's toxic secrets.

HOW FLYING MONKEYS AID THE ABUSER

The narcissists flying monkeys
Flying monkeys are loyal to the narcissist, won through years of hoovering. Hoovering is special attention and praise heaped upon the golden child (their favorite) and the flying monkeys that make them feel "special" and "superior" to the scapegoats.  Flying monkeys don't care if the narcissist is right or wrong, has done good, or evil. Their goal is to protect and assist the narcissist in their selfish agenda and keep their secrets.  They help the narcissist abuse their victims, and so are equally toxic.

Flying monkeys and their golden child are brainwashed and conditioned with "treats", special attention, gifts, and honors doled out by the narc when they are being " good", that is, playing along with the narc.  I don't know about any of you, but if you have ever dealt with or been taken by a narcissist, you learn their ways and see through it.

​As for myself, my loyalty always lies with the truth of what is right, and what is wrong. I will not protect or enable abuse no matter how much I love the person abusing, nor will I cover for them.  I will confront and correct them to protect those they abuse.  Beware, if you confront a narcissist, you will see what we call an episode of narcissistic rage. Their mask falls off and they go in to kill mode, to try and eliminate the threat to their narcissistic agenda. They'll unleash their flying monkeys on you.


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DEAR WORLD, I'M NOT A PIECE OF MEAT

2/12/2018

 
It is never appropriate to treat a person like they are a piece of meat, like you are entitled to their life and to violate their boundaries for your own pleasure
SO HERE'S MY STORY IN A NUTSHELL
As I am sure many adopted people are aware, living your life being treated like you are a piece of meat becomes tiring.  Especially when you have the responsibility to pretend like your not being treated like a piece of meat and your 'so exited and thankful' for it.  When people force their own judgment on you, about what they think you are, and who you are as a person, you finally get fed up and say, ENOUGH.  It is never okay to treat another human being as though they are your property.  It is never okay to form your own entitled judgment about another person's character, when you have no understanding of who the person actually is.  

I've lived my whole life feeling like I was banging my head against a wall, constantly saying, "That's literally the complete opposite of my character, and who I really am as a person!".  Who's the expert on knowing who I am as a person?  ME.  I am.  I know myself to the core.  The people that adopted me constantly treated me like I was their property.  The massive control issues were suffocating.  It never mattered what I said, how I felt, what I did, if I was wronged or treated improperly/inappropriately- it was ALWAYS disregarded, dismissed and these people just helped themselves to violating my boundaries, and exploiting my privacy.  I knew at age 11 that I was going to have to fend for myself, and I had a job to do- my job was to 'play pretend' to survive.  

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THE NARCISSIST & RELATIONSHIPS

2/3/2018

 

How the Narcissist Imitates Empathy 

WHEN A NARCISSIST PRETENDS TO HAVE EMPATHY
Narcissists run like clock work when it comes to their 'relationships'. Due to the fact that narcissists are desperate to ‘fit in’ and look good to society, they are desperate to emulate what normal people have, proper relationships, empathy, real feelings, and caring for others.  
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Narcissists are empty inside, and they are well aware of this, making them eternally desperate to try to emulate the feeling of empathy. Unfortunately for the narcissist, they do not have the ability to have real feelings and empathy. Because of this, the Narcissists constant efforts to try to appear like they hold this quality destroys anyone that they use to make themselves appear this way in the process.  The narcissist will use anyone that they have to to get what they want, and this is called 'Narcissistic Supply'.  


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TO THE SELFISH ADOPTERS OUR THERE- YOU'VE ALREADY SCREWED UP

1/30/2018

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Parenthood is the most selfless act a person can accomplish on this earth.  They sacrifice themselves for their child, and their child is always first, no excuses, no matter what. You know when a person was nurtured, loved and given everything their parent could give just by having a conversation with them. Don’t get me wrong, and I’ll be very clear on where I stand on this- there ARE people that should be allowed to adopt children.  There are people that do adopt for the right reasons, and that is to 110% love and nurture the child for the child's sake.  

When an adopter is allowed to adopt a child for their own selfish reasons, and adopts that child in vain, beginning the child’s life off with how they came to have the child in their household in the first place, has already screwed up.  Not only has the adopter completely destroyed what was rightfully the child and his/her real parents undying love and connection with each other, they have selfishly brought that child in their household, all to appease to their own psychopathy of thinking that a person can be selfish and destroy other people’s lives as long as you are getting what you want for yourself.  Not only this, but this selfish adopter ‘parent’ has done it at the exact expense of the child, and where the child came from.

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